CARLA’S DREAM

I’m in a crowded place. A colleague and I are sitting at a big wooden table. I’m enjoying my drink and observing my surroundings. A group of people is standing next to our table. A tall man at the counter is constantly looking at me. He’s trying to make eye contact. I’m afraid to look at him. I’m wondering if he could be a possible date or future partner. Eventually I’m letting this thought slide and I decide to ignore the stare of the tall man. Meanwhile my colleague stands up and walks away from the table. I’m sitting alone in a crowded place where people are talking to each other, but it doesn’t bother me.

Now I’m in a clothing store. There are blue and white summer dresses. One blue dress with flowers at the bottom has caught my eye. I take the dress from the clothing rack to see if I’m going to buy it. Suddenly I remember buying the same dress years ago and throwing it away (unworn). I’m still thinking about buying the same dress, but I quickly change my mind and put it back on the rack. I’m reminding myself that I never wore the blue dress that I bought years ago, so if I’m completely honest with myself I’m not going to wear the same dress now or in the near future.

EXPLANATION:

You’re doubting the possibilities of having a new and healthy relationship. That’s why being alone gives you a secure feeling. You’re focusing on being able to make the right decisions in selecting a partner. You don’t want to make the same mistakes again.

NOTE:

Be aware of your own capability to make better decisions in the present and future. Give yourself the opportunity to deal with past experiences. Take your time to know someone, when you feel ready to do so.

ANNA’S DREAM

I’m in a foreign country and the sun is shining bright. I’m walking to the restroom to retouch my make-up. I’m looking in the mirror but I don’t see my own reflection. Instead I see the reflection of a young unknown woman. I’m starting to get a little bit confused because it’s not my face that I’m seeing. After starring at myself and embracing the “new me” I turn back to the reception. At the reception a close family member is waiting for me. When I’m standing next to her she complains about the way I look. She thinks her clothes are spot on and mine are just dull (the lady is wearing very colorful clothes and I’m wearing the opposite). Out of the blue another lady comes and makes a whole spectacle of greeting my family member. They’re making a lot of noise. While they’re talking and laughing with each other the family member is trying to set me up by giving me something she has stolen. I’m refusing to play along. I’m flabbergasted that she has the audacity to try to put the blame on me! On something she has done! I’m not having it and I’m trying to distance myself from them.

EXPLANATION:

You are in a new stage of life. Individuality is something that you treasure. You can see right through people. It’s all good as long as they aren’t disrespecting your boundaries.

NOTE:

Set your boundaries straight. Stand up for yourself (even when you think words can’t hurt you). If you do so, people won’t easily get the idea that it’s possible to deceive you.

BROOKLYN’S DREAM

I’m in a house. Through the roof, streams of water are pouring in uncontrollably. The water is rising and the level is right underneath my knees. When trying to fix the problem, water is pouring out of the walls. There is no time or possibility to save anything. I decide to leave the house and stand outside where it’s save.

EXPLANATION:

You’re trying to control things that are out of your control. When a problem occurs you’re very driven in trying to fix the problem even when it means almost sacrificing your own well-being.

NOTE:

Perseverance is a quality that can bring you a long way in life. It can also get you in trouble if you don’t know when to stop. Not all problems can be fixed. Especially when they aren’t yours. See other people’s problems as their life lessons, as you see yours. Don’t take it as your main responsibility to bear the cross of everyone else. Instead of putting your time and energy in other people’s “unsolvable” problems, put that time and energy in yourself. You’re worth it.

HANNAH’S DREAM

I was surrounded by presents and food (all mine). All of a sudden my stepdaughter (an adult) was eating from my plate, without asking. In my mind I was telling myself I should say something about her behavior and then I thought never mind. Eventually I told my stepdaughter that she could eat, but that I really would like to have a piece of the egg. After my request she eats the entire egg without sharing! And a little bit of egg yolk is dripping out of her mouth. She also wants to decide what should happen with my presents. And yet again I want to say so many things, but choose not to.

EXPLANATION:

Someone is showing their true colors. They’re crossing the line repeatedly. You’re trying to ignore the reality of circumstances you’re in. Emotionally it’s eating you up. You’re doing your utmost best, hoping to receive their validation. Give them an inch and they’ll take a mile.

NOTE:

Some people take advantage of the situation they’re in. Especially when they’re totally aware of someone’s insecurities and fear losing the thing they cherish the most. Stick up for yourself and don’t let them control your life.

MILA’S DREAM

I see my 3 children (one girl and two boys) playing outside in the sun (In real life I’m single and childless). I ask them where their father is (Because I have no idea who the father could be). They’re pointing at the balcony where he’s standing. It’s the swim instructor whom I know in real life and I’m not disappointed. I’m enjoying the moment of us as family together.

EXPLANATION:

Starting a family has crossed your mind several times. You don’t have faith in men being father material. But there’s still a small part of you that wants to believe it could be possible.

NOTE:

Nobody’s perfect. Sometimes good things are nearby. Let your gard down and you’ll be surprised who could fit the description.

MALCOM’S DREAM

It’s the middle of the night. I’m driving a car. While driving I promptly remember that I don’t have a driving license. Suddenly I have difficulties driving, because I don’t think I have any skills. I’m trying to drive those few miles without getting noticed by the police. I’m so afraid of getting caught that I’m parking my car in a remote area. I decide to walk the long distance home.

EXPLANATION:

You’re in the possession of enough skills to succeed in goals you set your mind to. When you overthink too much, you shut down and are incapable of getting things done.

NOTE:

Believe in your own competence. Don’t doubt your strength in logical thinking. More experience doesn’t always mean more knowledge. Follow your own path and don’t get distracted by other people’s opinions.

KATY’S DREAM

I’m standing in a parking lot, trying to prevent the schoolbus from leaving. The other colleagues want to drive back to school. I’m refuse to step in the bus without the colleagues and children who are still missing. I’m waiting and looking out for the rest of the group. I’m putting my foot down and I’m not letting the angry looks of the chauffeur and colleagues (who want to leave) bother me. All of a sudden the bus quickly drives away with “everyone” except me. Now I’m standing alone in a dark and deserted parking lot with no one looking out for me. The colleagues, chauffeur and children are going back to school. While I’m left behind.

EXPLANATION:

You’re taking responsibility for other people’s actions . This turns out to be you getting the short end of the stick.

NOTE:

Don’t expect other people looking out for you as you do for them. It’s not always good things happen to those who do the right thing. Do the right thing, but don’t forget yourself in the proces.

AARON’S DREAM

My little brother is driving a car and my mother sits confidently next to him (even when she knows he doesn’t have any driving skills). I’m sitting in the back seat. He’s trying to make a sharp turn, but the car slips and we end up in a lake. My little brother and mother aren’t reacting on the fact we landed in a lake and the possibility of us drowning (They are unbothered). My mother assumes her son will solve the problem and he assumes she will. But none of them is moving a muscle. I’m just completely astonished by their passive demeanor and I’m taking actions!

EXPLANATION:

You’re witnessing unhealthy family dynamics. The family members in question are drowning in their utter devotion for each other.They both act extremely comfortable in their own created toxic environment, ignoring the negative consequences.

NOTE:

People will only change when they feel the need to change. Sometimes they choose to turn a blind eye to cope with the downward spiral of their life. Don’t let their choices effect your wellbeing. You can’t control people’s decisions in life, but you can control yours.

JANNY’S DREAM

This is a recurring dream since I was a little girl. I’m at the school swimming pool. Today is free swimming day and we can play all kinds of water games (Instead of the weekly programmed swimming lessons). I always looked forward to that day. In the swimming pool mammals (dolphin’s, orca’s) are swimming around. I’m still excited to swim, but my mind is trying to comprehend mammals swimming in a pool. It feels like a weekly repeated activity, but I’m questioning its normality. During my analysis of the whole pool situation, play time is running out and I don’t mind. I’m embracing the opportunity and my ability to observe the mammals in the swimming pool.

EXPLANATION:

You like to make your own decisions in life. Normal everyday activities can be perceived as massive undertakings. After taking it under a thorough examination you’ll find out it isn’t as complicated as you thought it would be.

NOTE:

You’ll miss out on the joyful things in life by putting everything under a gigantic loupe. Life can be less overwhelming when you aren’t overthinking too much.

MADISON’S DREAM

The sun is shinning. My mother and I want to go for a walk upon a hill full of bushes. Before getting ready, I see my ex with a young woman sitting beside him. He acts indifferent, looks at me and pretends he doesn’t know me. I’m returning the favor. My mum and I are making an attempt to walk up the hill. Suddenly the bushes catch fire. My ex and the young woman aren’t lifting a finger. My mother and I are taking big cloths to temper the fire before it will spread and get worse. But still the other bushes catch fire. I tell my mother to stop and bring us both in safety. We’re standing on a sandy road witnessing the devastating fire that could’ve been prevented by a few more helping hands.

EXPLANATION:

Decisions in the past can have consequences in the future. You still have expectations of people taking their responsibility for what
they’ve instigated.

NOTE:

Don’t put the blame on you because it takes two to tango. You’re burning your bridges behind you and choosing your own path by overcoming the obstacles in life.

DAVID’S DREAM

I see pipes sticking out of a concrete block, while I’m digging out the garden. I look away and when I turn back around, one of the pipes is damaged and a lot of water is pouring out.

EXPLANATION:

When a problem occurs you try to postpone dealing with it, as a result, you have to deal with a bigger one.

NOTE:

When you live life challenges can come your way, face these challenges and less insecurities will stop your personal growth.

MELISSA’S DREAM

I’m waiting at a busstop. There are a lot of people going in and out of the bus. The surroundings are unfamiliar to me. All of a sudden a man tells me I’m at the wrong busstop. I’m thanking him for his “good advice” and walk to the other busstop. When I want to check in a passenger is telling me I’m in the wrong bus. I’m asking myself why I listened to a stranger and why did he give me the wrong information? I’m stepping out. It’s getting late and it’s very dark outside. I don’t want to be alone at the busstation. I calm myself down and try to orientate and figure out how to get home safely.

EXPLANATION:

You like to give people the benefit of the doubt, but they always disappoint you. Their “helpful tips” usually lead to bigger problems.

NOTE:

Other people’s advices can be misleading. Trust yourself and you will achieve your goals even more quickly.